Children are actually amazingly tolerant, and as long as they are not frightened and given an appropriate psychological expectation, they are mostly able to accept something that seems very difficult.
Once I saw a little boy of six or seven in the hospital corridor who refused to get a shot, and his father, a big, tall man, really couldn't get him. The father seemed to be using his strength, trying to grab the little boy several times, but in the end, he was broken free. The little boy's resistance can really be described as "desperate", a small body burst out with amazing strength, harsh cries were shocking, the whole corridor was alarmed.
If a person's emotions do not go to the extreme, can have "desperate" energy? You can imagine the extent of the little boy's fear, and how much psychological torture the "little thing" of getting an injection brings to a child.
When children grow up, they will encounter many things that make them feel difficult and fearful, and it is the parents' duty to help their children overcome their fears, so that they can face these things with a positive and calm attitude and minimize their pain.
It is not a trivial matter to ignore how to deal with injections, which you will encounter many times in your life. Not to mention that some of the resulting psychology can also be transferred to other things. Adults should not measure their own feelings to the child, thinking that it is very simple, as long as the child is held down, or coaxed to play it will be fine. Parents should teach their children to accept it as calmly as possible and develop the courage to endure the pain.
I remember the first time Yuan Yuan got a shot for being sick was at one year and eight months old, and she was just getting the hang of it and saying some words. She had acute pneumonia, and I first took her to the outpatient clinic, where the doctor prescribed an injection. After picking up the medicine, I told her I would take her to get the shot. She probably still remembered the vaccination she had received a few months ago and looked scared.
When the needle was pulled out, I quickly said, "Hey, look, there's a little cat on this cup". Her attention was drawn to the cat printed on the cup, and she forgot that her bottom was stabbed. Now I said I needed to give her an injection, which probably brought up that impression, and as I carried her to the door of the disposal room, she suddenly said, "I don't want an injection."
I stopped and said to her, "The baby is sick now, with a cough and a fever. Do you feel comfortable being sick?" Yuan Yuan said no. "Then does the baby want to get well soon?" Yuan Yuan replied "Yes". She was coughing again and her face was burning red. I kissed her cheeks and said, "The medicine prescribed by the doctor will help Yuan Yuan get well and make the baby comfortable. If you don't give the injection, the illness will always be better."
Children actually know best, and adults will understand if they state their reasons correctly to the child. She was sick and uncomfortable, and she definitely wanted to get well soon.
Yuan Yuan accepted the injection from the reasoning, but her little heart was still afraid and she asked me with worried eyes, "Does it hurt to get the injection?" I smiled and said plainly, "Oh, it hurts a little, but not too much, just like the day you accidentally fell on a small stool." Yuan Yuan listened and her worries eased. I then asked her, "Do you think the day you fell on a fart, it hurt a lot, or just a little bit?" Yuan Yuan replied, "It hurt a little bit".
"Oh, the pain of the injection is similar to that pain, also a little bit." I told her frankly, and then said, "If you don't cry when you fall on your ass, you don't need to cry when you get an injection, do you?" Yuan Yuan nodded her head.
But I could see that she still had some worries and nervousness in her heart. So I cheered her up again and said, "Mom thinks Yuan Yuan is very brave, try to see if you are brave. If you can hold it in, don't cry. If you can't, it's okay to cry." My words gave her encouragement and made her feel brave; they also gave her a way out and made her feel fine even if she wanted to cry.
My expression when I talked to her was always pleasant and relaxed, showing that the injection was indeed a very simple matter. Yuan Yuan was also much more open. Her wish was definitely to be a hero, and she believed in her mother's words because she had never lied to her once, and since it only "hurt a little", there was nothing to be afraid of.
She was very nervous when she was playing, and her body was tense, but she didn't cry. The nurse praised Yuan Yuan for being so cooperative during the injection. Through the "test", Yuan Yuan felt that the pain of the injection, indeed, can be tolerated, so the mind became very calm.
After a few days of outpatient care, she was hospitalized. There were eight children in one ward, most of them were older than Yuan Yuan, two to three years old. Whenever people in white coats came in, whether they were nurses or doctors, sometimes they just came in to take their temperature or ask a question, the ward burst into tears and the children were terrified, just like wolves in a sheep pen. Yuan Yuan was the only one who didn't cry and didn't make a fuss. She would stop playing and ask me to hold her and wait with a sad face. Although she didn't like the injection either, she was able to accept it rationally. She never moved around during the needle, always cooperated, and was able to receive praise from the nurses every day.
As the child was too small, no blood vessels could be found in her arm when she was given the drip, so she could only get the needle in her brain, but the blood vessels in her brain were also very thin, so she often couldn't get it in one go, and often had to get it two or three times. One day a new nurse to Yuan Yuan lancing, actually a series of seven strokes did not tie. Adults may not be able to stand being stabbed seven times in a row, and her father and I were a little unbearable next to her. Yuan Yuan began to cry, but not loudly, just grunting and crying, but her head did not move and let the nurse manipulate. The eighth time it was tied and taped, she stopped crying immediately. I really admired this little one.
I saw some parents in the ward who used coaxing, intimidation, and coercion to get their children to take injections every day. The needles are stuck into those children's bodies as if they hurt many times more than others. The parents' approach not only magnified the child's pain, but also failed to teach the child to be brave in the face of difficulties.
At that time, Yuan Yuan's treatment also required a kind of "ultrasonic nebulization" physiotherapy, which is to let the child breathe a kind of mist with added medicine. The method is very simple, just put the spray mouth near the child's face, let her breathe naturally for ten minutes.
The first time we did it, the nurse brought in the device and we didn't know what it was, so we just held the child up as the nurse asked. The white, slightly medicinal smelling mist was sprayed onto Yuan Yuan's face as the machine started with a "buzz" and she was shocked and instinctively turned her face away. The nurse immediately told me to hold the child tightly and not to move. I quickly held Yuan Yuan tighter, trying to keep her face to the spray mouth. Not knowing what was happening, Yuan Yuan closed her eyes tightly, struggled hard to avoid the mist, and began to cry as I tried not to let her move. The nurse was also adjusting to where Yuan Yuan's face was twisted to, and she followed the jet to where it was. After struggling for a while, Yuan Yuan finally cried out and started to resist strongly. After only five minutes, she resisted so much that she couldn't do it, so she had to give up.
Compared to the injection, "ultrasonic nebulization" should be said that there is no pain, just natural breathing some fog, there is a faint smell of medicine, not unpleasant. Because there is no advance thought work to Yuan Yuan, in her unprepared to force her to accept, so it became the most fearful thing for Yuan Yuan. In the following days she has refused to do ultrasound nebulization, as soon as she saw the nurse pushing a nebulizer-like thing in, she immediately got nervous, far from treating the injection as calmly as calm.
It's true that the adults didn't do a good job in this case and gave the child fear.
There are several principles that adults should follow when it comes to the pain they have to put their children through.
One is to be calm and comfortable and not show anxiety. If adults first look anxious, children will feel that the problem is serious and will scare them.
Secondly, for why you are doing this, explain to the child in terms he can understand. For example, tell your child that you are sick now and need a shot, and that a shot will cure the disease. Don't assume the child doesn't understand and leave it at that.
Third, be truthful about the pain your child has to endure, and try not to exaggerate or overly minimize it. For example, many parents take their children for injections, in order to dissipate the child's nervousness, said "it does not hurt at all", the child fell for it once, will never fall for it a second time; their rational and courage to challenge the difficulties will lose an opportunity to sprout, and later will not trust adults.
Fourth, to stimulate the courage of children. Children's endurance is actually amazing, as long as they are not frightened and given a suitable psychological expectations, they are mostly able to accept something that seems very difficult. Also give them a way back, do not let children feel ashamed of their own flow of "not strong".
Fifth, never achieve the goal by cajoling or bribing. Some parents achieve their goals by saying "the police will come and arrest you if you don't get the shot" or "I'll buy you a remote control car if you take this medicine", which is very bad. Cajoling and bribing can only solve the problem for a while, and can not really relieve the tension of children, and also hinder their moral development.
Children should learn from an early age to face some difficulties or pain rationally, not only to relieve the pain, but also to protect themselves well.
When Yuan Yuan was two and a half years old, she suddenly woke up crying in the middle of the night one day. She was having difficulty breathing and seemed to have something stuck in her throat, and she looked very painful. I happened to have just read about pediatric laryngeal edema and thought Yuan Yuan's symptoms were very similar. It is very dangerous for children to have this disease, one is that children have a thin larynx, the other is that children do not know what to do, the more they cry, the more they cry the more edema, which may lead to blockage of the larynx and cause asphyxiation.
I was so scared at that moment that I tried to calm my tone and said to Yuan Yuan, "Baby, don't cry, you feel difficult to breathe now because you have edema." I pointed to her throat and told her, "If you cry, it will swell up even more, and it will be even worse to breathe. Don't cry, mommy will take you to the hospital right away." Yuan Yuan understood, immediately stopped crying and cooperated with me to get dressed. Although she looked so sad, she didn't say a word.
Her father was working abroad at the time, and at that time, I couldn't get a cab at night in Jining, so I went to knock on the neighbor's door and asked Xiaozhe's father to help me and take us to the hospital by bicycle. Xiaozhe's father was riding fast, and I was holding Yuan Yuan in the back. She was breathing hard, but kept quiet. When we got to a place where there was no street light, we hit a manhole cover that was much higher than the road, and we all fell down, and this tossed Yuan Yuan seemed to have more trouble breathing, but she didn't cry and her expression was still very calm. I think the child really knows how to behave, and I'm glad she does. I went to the hospital emergency room and was treated quickly, and the situation became better in a few hours.
The doctor said that this child is really good, the whole treatment process did not have a little to cry, children with this disease is the most afraid of crying.
Yuan Yuan's good behavior and understanding in this area is really endearing. She was ready to go to kindergarten before she turned 3. Before entering kindergarten, she had to undergo a medical checkup, and the kindergarten arranged for the enrolled children to undergo a medical checkup at the Municipal Maternal and Child Health Center on a certain day. On the way to the checkup, I told her that she might need to have blood tests. She was a little nervous and asked me if it hurt. I told her it hurt a little, and then told her that the blood draw was similar to a normal injection, in that it hurt a little when it was tied, but not when it was drawn. The company has had several experiences with injections, so she was relieved to hear me say this.
There were more than a dozen children at the checkup that day, and when the blood was drawn, the children were crying. Those who had been drawn, those who were being drawn, and those who had not yet been drawn were all crying. Especially when a second needle was needed, not only the children cried, but some adults were also anxious. The nurse who took the blood was annoyed, frowning, and seemed to have a bad attitude.
Yuan Yuan quietly leaned on me and waited, looking at the children with some curiosity and a little sympathy. She suddenly said to me that "crying hurts just as much". I asked her if she was trying to say that when a child gets an injection, crying and not crying hurt the same, and that crying does not relieve the pain. She said yes. I kissed her cheeks appreciatively and said, "Little Yuan Yuan is right, crying won't stop the pain anyway, so it's better not to cry." I didn't make the child promise that she would not cry. I thought it was hard enough for her to understand this way, so I didn't need to put any pressure on her, and in case she cried, she wouldn't have to feel ashamed for breaking her promise. At her age, it's normal to cry.
When it was Yuan Yuan's turn, she sat on my lap with her little arms outstretched, a little nervous but quietly waiting for the nurse to take the syringe and place the needle. The nurse was surprised to find that the child was not crying and looked at her.
Yuan Yuan probably wanted to comfort that nurse and said to her, "Auntie, I don't cry." This surprised the nurse, and her brow, which had been furrowed, unfolded, "Oh? Why don't you cry?" Yuan Yuan said, "It hurts just as much to cry.
The nurse immediately understood, she stopped moving her hands in amazement, looked at Yuan Yuan and paused for a moment before saying, "Ah, you little girl, you really know how to behave! Auntie has never met such a sensible child before!" She took the syringe in her hand, went to Yuan Yuan's arm to find the blood vessels, hesitated, put down the syringe in her hand, pulled open the drawer to find a new syringe and said, "You are so understanding, auntie does not want to hurt you, this needle is a little thinner, there is no pain, there is only this one left, for the most obedient child. She looked for Yuan Yuan's blood vessels, found not very good to find, so she stood up to find an older nurse, said to Yuan Yuan this aunt to ensure that a needle will be accurate. Sure enough.
It seems that telling your child that "it hurts a little" and teaching him or her to be calm and collected in the face of difficulties can not only reduce pain, but also protect yourself and "take advantage" of it.
Special Tips
When your child cries for something, distract him/her as soon as possible; this is more effective than coaxing and persuading him/her, and it can reduce the child's pain.
There are several principles that adults should follow when it comes to the pain they have to put their children through.
One is to be calm and comfortable and not to show anxiety. If the adult first looks anxious, the child will feel that the problem is serious and will scare them.
Secondly, for why you are doing this, explain to the child in terms he can understand. For example, tell your child that you are sick now and need a shot, and that a shot will cure the disease. Don't assume that your child won't understand and leave it out.
Third, be truthful about the pain your child has to endure, and try not to exaggerate or overly narrow it.
Fourth, inspire your child's courage. Children's endurance is actually amazing, as long as they are not frightened and given a suitable psychological expectations, they are mostly able to accept something that seems very difficult. Also give them a way back, do not let children feel ashamed of their own flow of "not strong".
Fifth, never achieve the goal by cajoling or bribing. Some parents achieve their goals by saying "the police will come and arrest you if you don't get the shot" or "I'll buy you a remote control car if you take this medicine", which is very bad. The cajoling and bribing can only solve the problem for a while, and does not really relieve the tension of children, and also hinder their moral development.