Parents lying to their children may block the communication channel between parents and children Children will always encounter some troubles when they grow up, and some things need to be communicated with their parents. If the parents are very trustworthy people in their lives, the child will be completely open to them and their advice and help can easily help. If the parents have a history of cheating on their children or have a deep shadow, then the child will not treat the parents as the most trustworthy person to communicate with when they need support and understanding during their growth process, and the parents will not listen to some correct advice.
When parents lie to their children, the children imitate their parents' deceitful behavior. If lying becomes the parents' usual trick, the children who are often deceived will slowly harbor their parents' resentment, anger, and even worse, a sense of powerlessness inside. Over time, children may acquire this deception from their parents, and thus treat their parents and others around them in this deceptive manner.
Parents who lie to their children will establish authority in front of their children The educational process requires someone with authority to speak. This authority is not power and oppression, but rather a feeling based on equality, trust and respect.
A parent lying to a child can cause the child to distrust the parent This trust may migrate to distrust of others, even future intimate relationships, and distrust of people in the parent's family is likely to migrate to other human circles in his life. He is likely to be less likely to make close friends.
How to remedy parents lying to their children
1. Apologize to your child
All people make mistakes or do improperly at times, as parents too, frankly and apologize, this is a correct way to treat mistakes, subtle, but also can set an example for the child. This is the right way to deal with mistakes, subtle, and can also set an example for the child. Thus, the child's trust in parents.
2. Communicate with children as equals, so that they understand
When parents fail to keep their promises, children are inevitably disappointed, but this should not be the final emotion. Because in the future, the child will face a deeper degree of broken promise experience, which is more serious than the parent unintentionally breaking the promise. Therefore, parents should do a good job of explaining to their children even though there will be times when they inevitably break their promises.
3. Replace deception with a more positive approach
In fact, if parents are patient and willing to listen, using a more positive approach is not cheating, but understanding what the real needs of the child's heart behind the request is, rather than cheating way to simply deal with. If a child wants to buy something or do something, then this is just a surface phenomenon, there is often a deeper reason behind it. For example, if a child wants to buy a toy that is not appropriate for his age group, he may be hoping to fit in among older children through this toy. All of these needs require parents' patience to appreciate. When you truly understand your child's needs, you may develop a more intelligent approach to respond to your child's requests and behaviors.