Parents should not look at children's doubts from the perspective of adults, but should understand children's problems from the perspective of children. It is the nature of children to be inquisitive. They have a strong interest in the things around them. They will ponder and research on the basis of interest, so as to discover problems, learn knowledge, and even invent. Therefore, smart parents should learn to protect. child's doubts.
James Dewey Watson was awarded the 1962 Nobel Prize in Physiology or Medicine. He was smart from an early age, loved to ask questions, and practiced himself, especially with regard to biological genetics.
Once it was time to eat, but Watson hadn't come home yet. Dad went out to find him and found him half-squatting on an egg. Dad wondered why he did that. Watson said: " This is how hens hatch chicks, I want to see if I can do it myself? I just took an egg and it will hatch in a while." Dad laughed, but he immediately realized that his attitude was wrong Yes, he first affirmed the child's questioning spirit, and then explained the truth to the child.
It was through constant questioning that Watson grew into a scientific master.
Being good at asking questions is a reflection of children's curiosity. When a child asks a question, it shows that the child is interested in the question. Parents cherish the child's question, which is to protect the child's curiosity. If the child's curiosity is suppressed, then the child's ability to question will not be developed. The child has a questioning heart, indicating that the child is really thinking about the problem, which is necessary in learning. Only when children have doubts about knowledge and learning can they gain more knowledge, increase their wisdom, and achieve progress in learning. Therefore, parents must protect their children's doubts.
The trick to protecting a child's skepticism is that parents should think and look at problems from the child's point of view, and learn to think in a different perspective. When you find your child's doubting heart, you must learn to understand and support it, and you must not miss the opportunity to affirm and guide your child.
Method 2: Take your child's questions seriously
Children ask their parents all kinds of strange questions, which shows that they have used their brains in the process of learning, and it also reflects the children's trust in their parents. Parents should keep a calm and objective attitude towards the questions raised by their children, and answer them seriously for their children.
In addition, when children ask their parents questions, it is a reflection of their desire for knowledge, and it can also reflect the child's mastery of knowledge. Parents can take advantage of this opportunity to discover their children's strengths and weaknesses, make the best use of the situation, and carry out education in a targeted manner.
One day after dinner, Mr. Lu Xun was leaning on the reclining chair, and Xiao Haiying asked a lot of childish questions beside him. Dad answered every question he had patiently.
"Dad, who raised you?"
"It was raised by my parents."
"Who raised your parents?"
"It was raised by my parents' parents."
"Oh, where did people raise them in the earliest days?" Xiao Haiying asked persistently.
Mr. Lu Xun didn't show a trace of impatience, facing Xiao Haiying's expectant eyes, he said patiently: "This is a very complicated issue, it can't be explained clearly in a few simple sentences, you are still young and still can't understand it. When you are older, the teacher will explain it to you clearly. As long as you study hard, this question will be solved.”
Mr. Lu Xun's answer not only satisfied the child's curiosity and made the child know the blood relationship between family members, but also took into account the child's age characteristics and understanding ability, he chose to avoid and not answer the questions that the child could not understand temporarily. The seeds of knowledge and exploration are planted in the depths of children's hearts.
For questions of moderate difficulty, parents should answer them in detail, tell their children the answer directly, and at the same time tell their children their own way of solving the problem. For difficult issues, parents don’t need to feel embarrassed, let alone defend their authority by reprimanding, but tell their children frankly that they don’t know, discuss with them, and set a realistic example for their children. It can also stimulate children's desire for knowledge.
No matter what kind of questions a child asks, parents should listen patiently, try to give the correct answer, and take into account the age characteristics of the child. In addition, parents should welcome their children to ask questions and fully arouse their enthusiasm.
Method 3: Guide children to learn to ask questions
In order for children to learn to ask questions, parents must first be good at asking children questions, and often talk to children about topics they are interested in, so as to guide children to learn to think and ask questions. In the process of questioning the child, the content should be in line with the child's age and knowledge range, and it should not be too difficult or too easy, otherwise it will dampen the child's enthusiasm for thinking. Children are often in an environment of questioning and thinking, and naturally they will gradually learn to ask their own questions, and then develop the habit of questioning.
Parents should master the skills of talking to their children, inspire and guide their curiosity, for example, instead of providing answers immediately, they should further raise questions and suspense to arouse their children's stronger desire for knowledge.
Method 4: Encourage children to answer their own questions
When dealing with children's questions, parents should be good at guiding and pay attention to expanding children's thinking. If a child's question can be answered with a little brainpower, parents should not give the child the answer directly, but encourage the child to think for himself, otherwise the child will develop the bad habit of relying on the parent's answer for everything.
When Carl Witt was three or four years old, his father would take him to the countryside every day, allowing him to touch and observe the ever-changing nature of nature. Sometimes Dad would catch some insects and teach him about insects in easy-to-understand language.
When encountering a problem that he does not know, the father will tell the child honestly: "I don't know this question either, let's find the answer together."
Parents may wish to expose their children to new things, encourage them to discover problems, and find answers on their own to satisfy their curiosity and thirst for knowledge. In the process of answering their own questions, children will gradually master the methods of solving problems.
Method 5: Appreciate the child's "questioning heart" in a timely manner
When children raise their own doubts about things, parents should give appropriate appreciation to make children more bold to question. Parents should never deny their children's opinions. They should stand on the children's point of view and actively affirm their ideas based on their age characteristics and way of thinking.
After returning home, Liu Cong said to his father, "Dad, there is something wrong with what the teacher said today." Dad put down the newspaper in his hand and asked the child to listen to it with great interest.
It turned out that Liu Cong studied the article "Sparrow" today. The teacher said that the article showed great maternal love, but he thought that the article never mentioned whether the sparrow was a female sparrow or not, so he doubted the teacher's statement. is wrong, because the sparrow in the article may also be "Dad".
Dad felt that what the child said was reasonable, so he praised his independent thinking ability and questioning ability.
Even if the child's question is naive and may not be completely correct, parents should fully affirm the child's behavior and protect the child's thinking spirit with an encouraging attitude. Woodmam