Method 1: Don't tell your child the answer to the question directly
When children are young and encounter difficult problems, they always hope to get help from their parents and get direct answers. At this time, parents must not encourage the child's habit, and should not give the child a direct or definite answer at the time. Otherwise, after a long time, children will become dependent on their parents and will not be able to think on their own, and it will be difficult to develop the habit of independent thinking, which is not good for improving children's intelligence level and thinking ability.
When wise parents face their children's problems, they do not tell their children the answers, but teach them how to solve problems, so that they can learn to think independently. For example, when the TV at home suddenly has no image or sound, the father can let the child find the problem by himself, and see if it is the power supply problem or the TV itself. In the process of finding answers, children exercise their thinking ability and accumulate experience. When they find the answer to a problem, they will be full of a sense of accomplishment and their thinking ability will be improved accordingly.
If the child cannot solve the problem independently for the time being, parents can demonstrate, by consulting materials, thinking repeatedly, etc., to let the child learn the method of thinking, which is very beneficial to cultivating the child's ability to think independently.
Method 2: Take the initiative to ask questions and discuss with the child
Questions are the starting point of thinking. When children are young, there will be many questions in their minds. When children ask parents questions, parents should discuss with them and explain to children patiently. If parents actively help children solve problems, children will ask more questions.
Parents can also often ask some questions to their children, so that the children's brains are often in an active state, and in this way, the children's thinking ability can be exercised. If parents want their children to learn to think actively, they must start by asking questions for their children. Parents’ questions can arouse children’s interest, and children will keep thinking in order to find the answer to the question.
Richard Philip Feynman was a famous American physicist who won the 1965 Nobel Prize in Physics. He can achieve such brilliant achievements, and his father's education to him since childhood is inseparable.
His father is very good at guiding his children to think. He played himself as an alien. When the "alien" met Feynman, he would ask a lot of questions on Earth, such as: "Why is there a difference between day and night?" "Why are there changes in climate and weather? ?" Feynman learned a lot and learned to think in such a questioning situation.
Later, Dad took Feynman to the museum. In order to guide the child to become interested in the museum, Dad still asked questions. He first let the child read some related books by himself, and then asked him questions. For the questions that the child did not understand, he explained to the child in easy-to-understand words.
Feynman was not tired of his father's education. On the contrary, his father's questions and discussions stimulated his enthusiasm for learning, and he developed a great interest in science and mathematics in the encyclopedia. He received his Ph.D. at 24, a professor at Cornell University at 28, and a Nobel Prize at 47.
In the process of children thinking about problems, parents should be good at asking open-ended questions, such as the different uses of teacups, etc., and how to solve emergencies, such as: "What if you get lost on the street?" and other similar questions. Guide children to think.
Parents use this method to let children think from a comprehensive and novel perspective, and let children have the courage to break through conventional ideas and put forward their own unique opinions.
Method 3: Encourage children to express their opinions
Parents should create a democratic and harmonious family atmosphere for their children. Only in such a family environment will children have active thinking and dare to express their opinions. Children who grow up in a depressing environment are not easily able to have their own opinions and views, their thoughts will be influenced by their parents, and they will only blindly follow their parents' opinions, which will affect the development of children's thinking ability.
Parents should encourage children to have their own opinions. When children express their opinions, even if they are wrong, let them finish and then give proper guidance. Parents should actively affirm and praise their children's correct opinions to increase their children's self-confidence in expressing themselves.
Qingqing's father is a very democratic person. At home, he allows Qingqing to speak his mind boldly. Even if she doesn't make sense, her father will not criticize her.
On the weekend, my father took Qingqing to visit a painting and calligraphy exhibition. Beforehand, my father did not tell Qingqing that all the paintings in it were the work of one person. After reading each painting carefully, Qingqing said to her father, "Dad, this painter's painting is really good."
Dad wondered how the child would know that it was the work of a single person. He asked the child, "Really? What do you think is good?" The child replied, "The colors of these paintings are very beautiful, and the brushwork is very bold." Dad listened to the child's words and smiled with satisfaction.
Many children are afraid to speak their minds boldly, for fear that they will be reprimanded by their parents if they say it inappropriately. And Qingqing dares to speak his mind, which is inseparable from Qingqing's father who usually encourages his children to express their opinions.
Children express their own opinions, mobilize their thinking ability, and use appropriate methods to tell others their thoughts. This is an important manifestation of children's independent thinking ability, because children will think carefully about their own problems and expressions.
Method 4: Tell children some puzzle stories
There are many puzzle stories and materials, including real people and fables. By telling these stories to children and discussing topics of interest with each other, parents are also of great help in developing children's thinking skills.
There is such a story: a kitten bites a small fish, the mother fish begged the kitten to let her baby go, and the kitten said: "Do you think I will eat your baby? If you answer correctly, I'll let it go." Xiaoyu's mother thought for a while and said, "You want to eat my baby." The kitten said happily: "If I give you the baby back, you're wrong, so I'm going to eat the little fish now." Xiaoyu's mother immediately said, "If you want to eat my baby, it means I guessed right. You should keep your promise and return the baby to me." Xiaoyu's mother's words made her confused, so she had to relax, and Xiaoyu's mother took Xiaoyu away.
The parents guide the children to see the cleverness of Xiaoyu's mother from the story. She took advantage of the difference in the thinking conditions between the kitten and Xiaoyu, seized the loopholes in the kitten's logical thinking, and rescued her child. This kind of story can exercise children's logical reasoning ability.
Method 5: Play some educational games with your child
Life is the best classroom for educating children. In life, children generally like games. If parents inject educational elements into games, it can promote the development of children's thinking ability. Parents often play some puzzle games with their children, which can not only communicate parent-child feelings, but also promote the development of children's thinking ability. For example, when parents take advantage of the holidays, they hold games such as quizzes, and they can invite some of their children's friends to participate together.
Every weekend, Cong Cong's mother invites her children's friends to play games at home. She will prepare a lot of riddles for children to stimulate children's interest and cultivate children's reasoning and imagination. She also encourages the children to come up with riddles to each other and figure out the answers. Occasionally, the mother also lets the child play the number game with playing cards to exercise the child's thinking. She also specially bought chess, so that the children can exercise their thinking skills while playing chess. Under the guidance and help of her mother, Cong Cong's intelligence developed smoothly.
In games, parents should teach their children how to think, and use the methods of reasoning, comparison, and generalization to promote the development of thinking. Encourage children to be more hands-on and more verbal, and comprehensively promote and train children's thinking.
Method 6: Allow your child to be unconventional
Children have novel ideas, parents should not deny their children, but allow their children to be unconventional, because unconventional is an important manifestation of cultivating thinking ability.
There is a reasoning story like this: There is a bridge across the river from east to west, and it takes 5 minutes for people to pass. There is a pavilion in the middle of the bridge, and there is a guard inside. He comes out every 3 minutes. If someone passes through, he will let him go back, and he will not be allowed to pass. A wise man came up with an ingenious way. He crossed the bridge from east to west. After walking for two and a half minutes, he turned his face and walked back to the east. When the guard came out, he could turn around and cross the bridge. .
If you don't break the routine, you can't cross the bridge anyway. When encountering a problem that is difficult to solve, parents should guide the child to change the way of thinking and angle of thinking about the problem. After reasonable analysis, sorting, and induction, they can imagine a novel method to solve the problem, which is very helpful for improving the child's thinking ability.